Sunday, April 5, 2009

Adam Wade Catt, In Loving Memory

Grief is never an easy thing. Saying goodbye when you don't want to...and I do not want to... is so difficult. My family is coming to terms with the loss of Adam Wade Catt, my cousin. He is gone from those that love him far too soon. 39 years young, three children, a wife, countless family and friends; everyone of us wishing we had more time with him. More words from him. To see him smile again. I am cherishing every memory as I believe we all are.

Some of my very earliest memories involve Adam; I was not quite two years old when he was born. My family, his family and Uncle Neale's family all lived on the same block, less than four or five houses away. That is eight cousins in pretty close proximity. Our family is extremely blessed in the cousin department. They all have such diverse interests. The Allen boys had their love of all things reptilian. Lori taught me the art of arguing. Gina brought direction to us all and Melissa was...music. David Mark showed us video games and attempted to teach us the Rubik's Cube. I could go on for pages about the great cousins I have but this one...is about Adam.


Soon we all moved away from our cozy little block and some even to different towns. Christmas and Thanksgiving were whirlwinds of fun though, as we all came back together for a time. I was a goofy West Texas junior high kid when Adam and his brother Gregor started spending several weeks over the summer at Grandma's house. Those were the best summers of my life. Adam and Gregor showed up with skateboards so I bought a cheap one just to play along. Soon I was hooked. We skated all over Lubbock, spent hours reading Thrasher magazine, and watching skateboarding videos. Our favorite was "The Search for Animal Chin"; we were fans of Tony Hawk before Tony Hawk was cool! We played Dungeons and Dragons and left paint at some of our favorite skate spots. I was a good boarder, Gregor was better. Adam was beautiful. He inspired me to try something new every time he picked up a skateboard.

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Adam was small in stature but in a way he was larger than life. No, he didn't swagger; he...just...was. Every time Adam walked into a room it made you smile. His smile was the thing. He just really enjoyed...laughing. We saw the movie "Arthur" maybe eight times. In the theater. Something about that silly drunk Englishman made us laugh. Alot.

I spent a summer at their house and when I bought my first real deck, Adam was there. It was a
"Gator" by Vision. The wild Mark Gator Rogowski, was my favorite. Adam and Gregor helped me build it from the ground up; we even recreated part of the crazy design in grip tape on the deck's top side. A year later when that board was trash, especially after being accidentally run over by Grandma, Adam went with me to get a Hosoi Hammerhead deck. I still have that board today. Adam popped my shoulder back into place after a "totally rad" hand plant went wrong then helped me celebrate the effort. I miss him.
We had not seen one another for years but he's never been far from my heart. Adam, you and Gregor gave me some of the things I most enjoy in life. Skateboarding, Punk Rock, adrenaline rushes, and memories.

Every time I look at my son, Memphis, I see Adam. He too is small for his age, but fears nothing. When people meet him, even for a moment, he leaves an impression. Adam left a lifelong impression on me and I am grateful for all we shared. I love you and will miss you cousin.

10 comments:

----- Jennifer ----- said...

i like your blog

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for sharing. Adam touched so many and we will miss him something fierce.
~Kristine (Cullers) Childs

Melissa said...

Wow...Brad you always seem to capture in words what everyone is feeling, but can't find the words for. I think you should write a book someday. Thank you for this absolutely beautiful tribute to our cousin, Adam.

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for sharing some of you're memories with all of us,I feel very blessed to have known Adam.He will always be loved & missed.

Anonymous said...

Thank you soo much Brad, he is in that endless transition,prepareing for the lip,,, One of Adams other brothers said,"he is gonna know all the lines up there by the time we all get to skate with him again"
I love you..love gregor.....

Gina said...

Brad...This made me laught and cry all at the same time. Like you I have SO many memories...LOVE that I have so many wonderful cousins I hold dear to my heart...and very SAD to have lost sweet Adam Wade. Thank you for taking time to remind all of us of these precious times! I remember many of them well! I love you! Gina

Rachel M Catt said...

Thank you, Brad, for painting such a vivid picture of Adam. He was an incredible person. A very loving father and husband. I think of him often and have a good cry...like today! I miss him sooo much!

Mark 13:20 but for the sake of the elect, whom He chose, He shortened the days.

Rachel M Catt

Anonymous said...

Adam was good people! Need I say more...Tameiko

Anonymous said...

Wow, The pic of Adam laying in the skate park was awesome!

jodi murrey said...

i was the new girl in the nieghborhood and adam and greg were not shy what so ever. Of course adam introduced the skate board to me and all he could ever convince me to do is sit on it so he could push me down the cul da sac. lol i just found out the loss of a great guy and friend.I wish i knew what to say but i thank you for the words that you shared.miss you adam catt!!!